If I had to choose one aspect of myself to improve upon that will aid in my individual growth what would it be…
An aspect of self that I am constantly challenging or developing in order to be a better person…
Well there is that one thing…I’ve been thinking about this for a while now…Improvement in this area would definitely help in all areas of my life…
It can be said that life is just a series of decisions. You decide what time to wake up, what to eat for breakfast (if you even eat breakfast), what shoes to wear, and what route to take to school and work. During any given day, you need to make countless decisions and this can be incredibly hard given certain circumstances, factors, and variables. You’d think that since you are constantly choosing between things that you would be able to decide quickly, without fear or consequence in a leadership role, such as the RA position. However, deciding whether to plan out a meeting to a T or letting fate take its course is something that has been hard for me.
Trying to make a decision—whether or not to knock on doors and see what residents are up to, reconsidering times for a program to meet EVERYONE’S SCHEDULE, having a extensively planned event that is supposed to help your residents get to know you better, or taking on more than you can sometimes handle—and standing by your choice is a challenge we must face over and over again. In order to be able to handle these situations when the time arises, it’s best to put decisiveness into practice now. That way when you have to choose between A and B, your choice will be final. If you’re thinking easier said than done, bear with me.
Here’s 5 strategies to be less hesitant and more decisive and stand by the choices you make:
#1. Bye, Negative Nancy. Hello, Positive Patty.
The first step in the process is to get on board with the train of thought. You cannot keep telling yourself that you are hesitant, bad at making choices and that this will never change. This mind-frame perpetuates the negativity that you create and hinders you from future successes before they even come into sight. Let go of the negative nancy persona and embrace positive patty.
#2. Go With Your Gut.
You have a sense of intuition that tells you yay or nay and you have to decide to go with that decision sometimes. Your gut is the subconscious part of your brain, and it sways your mind one way or another based on past experiences. It recognizes patterns that serve as your compass to make good decisions in the future so go with it!
When making a decision it doesn’t hurt to consult with someone that you trust. When you reach out and get their feedback and perspective as to what to do they can serve as a backboard to bounce ideas off of. Sometimes it takes a second set of ears to give you unbiased, true perspective on a situation. Those you consult also can serve as reinforcement and support system for your decision if at any point you feel weary after having made it.
#4. Back It Up (but not on me, please).
Do research. Gather information. Being decisive does not mean being swift in all that you do but rather making a decision and sticking to you through and through. If you gather information you are better equipped to make an informed decision based off of that. This should give you a cushion of reassurance because you know the topic from all angles.
#5. 5, 4, 3, 2, 1…Decision.
Set a time limit for yourself so that you get into the habit of making on the spot decisions. This forces you to commit to something or another in a short period of time based off of the information that you gathered and your gut instinct. Give yourself ample time to weigh options, outcomes, and alternatives but do set a limit on the duration otherwise you could drag out the process longer than need be.
Why do I hesitate so much?:
I have a tendency to overthink ideas and concepts that I come up with, 1 on 1 conversations that I have with individuals, how to interact “naturally” and so much more. This quality keeps me from carrying out plans effectively at times and leads to a lack of follow-through. My tendency to get caught up in the planning stages eliminates the possibility for the plans to develop further, on their own. I naturally think that things have to be perfect in order to work properly and this mindset is what hinders me from making decisions. My hesitation stems from my wanting to make sure plans are FLAWLESSly carried out.
Throughout the duration of the year, by working on my decisiveness I will have become more secure in who I am as a person and a more effective leader. This is to say that through the trust in my decisions and actions I will have become more in-tune with who I am, my values, and desires. Through the implementation of a more decisive attitude:
This will also help me to relate to others, in that, I will be steadfast and be able to show my stance on a topic, or subject rather than be fair-weather. Being able to show where you stand on a topic or issue helps in how others interat and approach with you.
Lastly, I think another imporatant benefit of being more decisive would be the loss of stress. Planning out every single detail when it may not be 100% necessary involves a lot of work on the front end but definitely while carrying out the idea. Sometimes it’s easier to plan the structure but let the details flow naturally .
This all being said over the past year I have learned invaluable lessons on leadership, team-work, community building, and so much more than I could have ever asked for. I am ready to take on whatever challenges lay before me in the next semester.